More than we realize "Emotions" play a very
vital role in the final outcome of our lives. Our emotions control all our
actions and reactions. Every human behavior is orchestrated by our Emotions, either for good or otherwise.Experts in Emotional Intelligence (E.I) have propounded myriads of theories attempting to explain why we behave the way we do.
Nevertheless, I want to discuss something I meditated upon recently.
There are two concepts in human emotion: Call them "Yin" & "Yang" if you will.
But, I call them "Love" & "Anger".
I believe there's a lot of waste going on around us, in the realms of "emotions"
People get fired by their bosses unjustly. Raped at a very young age by a trusted person. Forcefully divorced by a Cynical Spouse. Expelled from the university for the wrong reasons. Unable to complete education dues to lack of funds. Graduated out of school with a 3rd class due to sickness. Always Being Marked down by a Terrible Boss/Supervisor. Always getting 1 Notch every appraisal Year. Left (Unjustly) at the Same Salary for donkey-years. (The list is inexhaustible)
You and I know someone who fit at least one of the descriptions above. (I actually know several folks for every case mentioned above. I'm sure you do too).
These are folks who have suffered great degrees of "Injustice". Injustice from their fellow country-men and from "unfairness" in all ramifications.
Folks like this are usually angry, as expected. While some have chosen to live a life (As described by Henry Thoreau) of "quite desperation". A life that the King of Afrobeats Fela Kuti called "Suffering and Smiling".
I believe there's a lot of waste going on around us, in the realms of "emotions"
People get fired by their bosses unjustly. Raped at a very young age by a trusted person. Forcefully divorced by a Cynical Spouse. Expelled from the university for the wrong reasons. Unable to complete education dues to lack of funds. Graduated out of school with a 3rd class due to sickness. Always Being Marked down by a Terrible Boss/Supervisor. Always getting 1 Notch every appraisal Year. Left (Unjustly) at the Same Salary for donkey-years. (The list is inexhaustible)
You and I know someone who fit at least one of the descriptions above. (I actually know several folks for every case mentioned above. I'm sure you do too).
These are folks who have suffered great degrees of "Injustice". Injustice from their fellow country-men and from "unfairness" in all ramifications.
Folks like this are usually angry, as expected. While some have chosen to live a life (As described by Henry Thoreau) of "quite desperation". A life that the King of Afrobeats Fela Kuti called "Suffering and Smiling".
Then, it occurred to me what a waste! What a waste of Power!
What a waste of Potency, Of a Raw Fuel for effectiveness Focus and
Determination. A quintessential elixir of "Purposefulness". The
engine house of capacity for "PURSUIT".
In my estimate "Anger" can be useful, if properly used.
Hey, boiled water can produce a nice meal or scars through the hands of a jealous lover. Guns can be used to defend the innocent, protect national sovereignty at war, or be used to kill innocent souls in cold blood. Positive usefulness is the operative word here.
The point I'm making is simple "Your ANGER can be an ASSET".
Put to proper use can be the raison d'etat for your Success or Greatness in Life.
I'm not talking about being "Revengeful" I'm talking about How you can "Re-channel" or "Leverage" your hurt to your own advantage.
As a growing kid, I watched lots of old Chinese Kungfu movies.
Usually the same story line "You killed my master when I was 10, now I'm 20. I've been "training". Today, I'll kill you and avenge my master".
Fantastic as the fights were ( I loved the sound effects of the kicks & acrobatics), However, once in a while, you find the protagonist being "Taught" during his training years ( They're usually groomed in the hands of another "Drunken Master" or Old wise teacher in the bush...) telling the young boy, "When the time comes, use your anger wisely".
So, I ask you today. Are you angry? Are you very offended?
By your boss? Ex-boss? Ex lover? Parents who didn't pay your school fees? Cynical neighbors who derided your childhood dreams?.
In my estimate "Anger" can be useful, if properly used.
Hey, boiled water can produce a nice meal or scars through the hands of a jealous lover. Guns can be used to defend the innocent, protect national sovereignty at war, or be used to kill innocent souls in cold blood. Positive usefulness is the operative word here.
The point I'm making is simple "Your ANGER can be an ASSET".
Put to proper use can be the raison d'etat for your Success or Greatness in Life.
I'm not talking about being "Revengeful" I'm talking about How you can "Re-channel" or "Leverage" your hurt to your own advantage.
As a growing kid, I watched lots of old Chinese Kungfu movies.
Usually the same story line "You killed my master when I was 10, now I'm 20. I've been "training". Today, I'll kill you and avenge my master".
Fantastic as the fights were ( I loved the sound effects of the kicks & acrobatics), However, once in a while, you find the protagonist being "Taught" during his training years ( They're usually groomed in the hands of another "Drunken Master" or Old wise teacher in the bush...) telling the young boy, "When the time comes, use your anger wisely".
So, I ask you today. Are you angry? Are you very offended?
By your boss? Ex-boss? Ex lover? Parents who didn't pay your school fees? Cynical neighbors who derided your childhood dreams?.
Out-rightly bad
supervisor? Or Draconian Company Policy? Etc
Well, I want to tell you congratulations! You're qualified!
You have the right ingredient for Great Success! There's a more Excellent Way!
I want to challenge you to:
Well, I want to tell you congratulations! You're qualified!
You have the right ingredient for Great Success! There's a more Excellent Way!
I want to challenge you to:
■Take your anger to the Gym and loose that dead weight you're carrying in your
belly.
■Take your anger to the University and register for your Master's Degree.
■Take your anger to Corporate Affairs Commission (CAC) and register your first business. PS: I think every thinking Adult
should have a registered business even if you're a career employee for life.
(You'll thank me someday for this).
■Take your anger to the extra curriculum class. And learn a new Skill-set or
competences. Learn something new, even if its "Salsa Dance".
■Take your anger to the Saloon and make yourself look sexier.
■Take your anger to the Embassy and travel to see
another country.
■Take your anger to seminars. Enroll in a course. If you don't have money, go to
Cousera.com and take a free course. And get a free Certificate from Solid
Universities abroad. FREE.
■Take your Anger to your children's school and ask their teacher How their
academic Performance can be improved upon.
■Take your anger to your land or uncompleted house, and finish that Project
once and for all.
■Take your anger to your dusty bookshelves, pick up a self-help , management or
any good book in your field and acquire New Information.
■Take your anger to LinkedIn.com. Sign-up. Complete your profile. Join Groups.
Engage with 200million Pros. Participate in Intelligent discussions. Share
Information, Ideas and Opportunities. And watch your personal brand equity
grow!
The outcome of our lives can sometimes be "empowered" "enhanced" or "driven" by what we do with that (formally negative) emotion called "ANGER"
"Be ANGRY, but Sin not"...Eph.4: 26
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9 comments:
Interesting read and you may well have some great new initiatives here. I read in the Psych Blog site that showing anger is a sign of passion and we can all of us chanel that if we choose. Cheers Sylvie
I couldn't agree more. It's unfortunate that all people do not have an internal drive, or even the belief that they CAN make a difference. Doing "the right thing" isn't always very popular as we've heard many times before. I've witnessed so many that are fearful of "taking a stand", to come forward and report, or bring attention to unacceptable behavior. For myself, for the sake of my own integrity, I cannot live, or work, "under the thumb" of injustice. I have no regrets for standing tall, standing strong, especially if the action has the potential of benefiting children or the elderly. Yes it has, and can have "financial falls." But, when the law supports the belief, that internal drive kicks in and I find myself having to take action for the greater good of all. If only more people would listen to their "internal Jimminey Cricket".... maybe there would be a little less unacceptable actions from others...AND I predict a lot more work would be accomplished with better attitudes! Seems like a win/win situation to me!
I agree we should all stand up to injjustices, small and large. I am often annoyed at how cowardly people can be in their day-to-day lives. They empower bullies and idiots because, they are too afraid to speak up, or they don't want to make a "big deal" out of something.
What confuses me is those people actually think they are on the sideline, and by not getting involved, they are not playing the game. The reality is that by not socially sanctioning bad behavior, you are tacitly condoning and encouraging it. You either sanction bad behavior, or encourage it.
I have always been one of the first to stand up to injustice. But I've had mixed results, and I've taken some licks for it, because other people usually don't. I have often wondered why I bothered, since nobody seemed to care. I knew I was right, but too often might makes right, even though it should be the other way around.
I like this article because, it makes me realize that when I am unable to affect injustices in life without sinking my own boat, I can redirect that energy somewhere else and use it for something positive to offset the injustice and raise my spirits (and hopefully those around me in the process).
Thanks Leke
Thank you for bringing to the forefront Mr. Oshiyemi's wisdom to make better use of energy that can be engulfed with the fight for what is right. For myself, as many times as I have been told, "you can't be an army of one", I have not been able to let go of the, "What if" thoughts. What if I did stand up? Would things have turned out differently? Would I have prevented someone else from suffering the same situation? That internal drive, "to do the right thing", always wins, even when I know it's leading the way to career destruction. Fortunately, I have no regrets. If I didn't do what I felt was in my power to make a difference, I would have a difficult time facing the reflection in the mirror.
How many times does one have to "sink" before they can rise above their own self-righteousness, let go of feeling responsible, perhaps let go of the need to control what is not in one's power, and gain the ability to redirect that energy. Letting go and redirecting seems so simple, yet for some, nearly impossible to accomplish (knowing it's the best case scenario).
I will end with making it a goal to be more aware of the benefits of "letting go" of a battle. When that destruction spiral hits, I need to be prepared with a list of positive, activities that will make a difference for others. I have to trust that choosing one of these ideas to help others will ultimately be more successful in making a difference for another. It is more sensible than planting my heels and trying to fight, "the ten foot tide". Easily said...now to put the idea into practice! (Perhaps, I need to crush that "Jimminey Cricket" I mentioned earlier...) Sadly, there just doesn't seem to be a place for such a conscience in today's world.
Many thanks everyone. I'm inspired by your comments.
This is thought and action provoking.Thanks for the informations on the free online courses shared,its a great deal of help.
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